OK, I admit it! I am a romance novel guru......
Now please know that when I say 'romance' novel, I am not talking about the kind that you turn over at garage sales to keep your younger siblings from looking at the covers! :o)
I am talking about the simple kind of romance, The kind that follows families for generations.
Such as the Love's Long Journey series by Jeanette Oke. ( If you have never read the books but have seen the movies, just know that the movies DO NOT DO JUSTICE!!!)
In general people are all the time saying things such as, 'Reading any kind of romance creates ideals in your mind that aren't true' or 'Men really don't act that way in real life' or 'Marriages aren't like that at all'
Well.....no. and yes.
Sometimes it depends on the author, other times, the mind that reads the words.
I am fifteen year old young lady. I enjoy reading these stories (because that is all they are!)
I have tryed to be really careful not to let the, I'll just say 'sweetness' effect me. BUT,
I am afraid I am now a hopeless romantic at heart. Is that a bad thing??
As far as reading these books and them creating ideals, yes, they do. But not one that is necessarily untrue or bad. If you are reading someone like Jane Austen or Jeannette Oke you will know that it is not 'Love at first sight' blah Sometimes the people hate each other!
I HOPE that one day when (and if God allows it) I get married, I love the man I am marrying!
Now I know that he will most likely not sweep me up in his arms in the middle of a pouring rain or come riding up on a white stallion.
But, he will be my prince charming. It is all in the way you look at it.
No,most men do not act like the men in these novels.
Most of the so called 'men' out there in the world do not even act like men.
They were not trained to work hard, protect ladies, be the leaders of their family, etc.
But, there are guys out there who were trained to do that.
Now to point three,
Marriages are not like that at all'
What? Are you sure?
Because when I look at my parents I see everything that is sweet,lovely, and yeah, even a little
(as much as you can be with 6 kids) romantic.
My dad:
He opens doors for my mom
He sends her flowers for no reason
He rubs her feet every single night (!!!!)
He buys her small gifts about once a week (new watch, chap stick,new clothes)
He LOVES to be around her. (He'll go anywhere, as long as she'll go with him)
My Mom:
I see her tirelessly giving of herself to my dad.
She is constantly coming up with ways to serve him and make his load lighter.
She makes it a point to make his favorite meals.
She will be the first to admit that she has a lot of learning to do in this area. (although I think she is doing great)
Now, I say all of this not to prove whoever thinks or says the above things about novels is wrong.
I am just simply stating my opinion on the matter. :o)
-taylor